Why Being Always Positive Can Be Actually Devastating For You

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“Always be positive. Stop thinking negatively, because you are calling into your life.”

Every person I know already heard this advice. In fact, 99% of all people who wants to change their lives start with changing their mindset into – Always positive mode.

For example, my girlfriend once studied for an exam and she said to me, I know what I have to do. I just need to think positively, and I will pass the exam.

I said, is it truly anything you should do? Shouldn´t you also study? 😊

She studied really hard and finally passed the exam.

My point is, that even when she is super sensitive and she is always worried about something, she knows one thing – all it takes is to be positive and everything will be okay.

Lots of people think that way, but I believe there is a time when you should be positive, but there is also a time when you should be negative.

In the last article, I wrote why you SHOULDN´T get rid of negative people. Today, I´d like to write to you why being always positive devastating for you.

But, firstly, let me tell you, that I am a big fan of positive thinking.

In fact, for a very long time, I was the only person in my family, who tried to be always positive. In time, I infected people who are closest to me with this attitude.

So, please, don´t get me wrong, I am a big fan of a positive mindset, but I am against what I called – ALWAYS POSITIVE MODE.

So, let´s begin…


Did you know that air force pilots need to have plans for 3 scenarios before they take off?

  • One for the best scenario – when everything goes as it should,
  • One for the most likely scenario,
  • And one for the worst scenario.

Why should they make a plan for the worst scenario? Why they simply don´t think positively and then, nothing bad could happen to them?

But, as you already suspect world doesn´t work like that.

So, my question is…

Isn´t it better to be a little bit “negative” at the beginning, predict what could go wrong and prepare for it?

So, I think, this is the right, simple way to do it:

  1.  Think in advance, what can go wrong and prepare a back-up plan for it.
  2. Then be as positive as you can and hope nothing bad will happen.

Isn´t it better to go to sleep at night, knowing that even when your plan won´t work (which you already know happens frequently), you are prepared for it?

Maybe you are a business owner and you are starting a new project. So, what if:

  • this project goes wrong?
  • you don´t have finances?
  • your supplier cancels your agreement?

Wouldn´t you be a much more satisfied, knowing you are already prepared for it? Knowing your business doesn´t fail because of it?

A big benefit for me is that when I am prepared for the worse – I am much calmer.

I don´t have to worry about everything, because I have a plan for fixing it immediately.

Let´s say, tomorrow you are going to fly to Paris.

When you´d be more worried?

  • if the pilot has an exact plan for overcoming any problems in the air?
  • or if the pilot just think positive that nothing bad could happen?

It´s a little extreme example, but it shows exactly, when to be and when not to be positive.

It was John Wooden who said – “Prepare for the rainy days, before it´s rainy.”


Another example and also tip for you when you should be negative is your income. You should have a financial reserve at least the wage of your 6-month income.

So if you are earning 2 000$ per month, you should have a reserve at least (12 000$).

So again, be negative at the beginning and assume that you can lose your job or that you can have an accident so you will not be able to work.

When would you be more worried about losing your job? When you have the financial reserve for you and your family, or when you don´t?

Once again golden rule: Be negative at the beginning, after you are prepared for the worse, be as positive as you can.


As you can see, being always positive can hurt you even more, than being always negative.

When you are always positive and don´t think for a second that something may not go according to your plan, you aren´t prepared for the worse and that could be devastating for you.

So, please if you won´t remember anything from this post, just remember this rule:

Be negative at the beginning, after you are prepared for the worse, be as positive as you can.


I hope you aren´t gonna be one of those people who always just hope nothing bad will happen, but rather the one who prepare for it and not let any circumstances crush your dreams.

All these paradoxical principles shared in this article are used by many successful people all over the world. Yet, almost no one knows about it.

And I didn´t too ,until I enrolled in the 67 Steps program, and I discovered this and many other principles that most successful people in all areas of life use every single day.

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My name is Patrik. I live in Slovakia and I am owner of dayprov.com. Dayprov is about Everyday improvements in our lives. You will find here tips about success, motivation, personal development and anything you want. Your recommendations for new interesting blog posts you would like to read about send to patrik@dayprov.com.

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