Why Advice – Get Rid Of Negative People Is Actually Bad For You?

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Did you already read at least 1 book or an article about happiness, success or anything related to your well-being?

Or just watch a Youtube video trying to find out more about this topic…

I bet, one of the first advice you got was – GET RID OF NEGATIVE PEOPLE.


Am I Right?

And it´s true…

It´s really difficult, maybe even impossible being happy and successful around always negative TOXIC people.

I know this from my own experience…

Some of my “friends” rather made fun of me while I was trying to start a business. Or when I rather stay home and read a book, instead of going out to a bar with them…

But, despite all of that, even this isn´t Black or White.

I believe, there is a time when getting rid of negative people is actually BAD for you.

That´s why I decided to write this article…

Once I heard this story from the motivational speaker – Les Brown:

Mr. Brown was once on a conference of public speakers, and there was a man who lectured them.

All attendees saw, this man wasn´t so good,  didn´t have a real talent for public speaking, but still, he was up there, and all other speakers (better than him) were sitting, and listening to him.

They all thought, how the hell can he be up there, talking, and we are down here, and listen to him.

The speaker said…

“I know, I don’t have charisma. I know, I don’t have energy. I know, I’m not as enthusiastic as many of you here.
But the reason I’m standing up here and holding this microphone and you are seated out there listening to me is because I represent the thoughts you have rejected for yourself.”


Despite any circumstances, this man finds the courage and did what many more talented people didn´t. I am sure, they were hundreds of people, who wanted to discourage them from public speaking, but he didn´t care, he knew, this is what he wanted to do, and found a way to deal with all negative people.

If you don´t know where to find your courage, here are 8 effective tricks for boosting your courage.

But, back to your life situation…

Why you shouldn´t always get rid of negative people?

Let me tell you a personal story of mine…

When I wanted to start my own business, I said about it to my family. What do you think, their reaction was?

“Is this real? If it was too easy, everybody would do it? Just finish school and get a good job…”
And so on, and so on…

I bet many people experience this when you talk about something that isn´t common, with your family.

But my question is…

Should I stop meeting my family? Should I stop talking to them?

Should I be offended, and wait for their apology, because they didn´t share my vision?


These people react negatively just because they love you! They want only the best for you!

So it´s pretty sure, they don´t want you to risk, they want a happy life for you.

My point is, there are negative people you SHOULDN´T get rid of, and there are negative people who you SHOULD get rid of ASAP.

Where is the difference?

First, you need to understand this…

There are 2 reasons, people act negatively to you:

  1. As I already mention, they love you and don´t want anything bad to happen to you.
  2. Or, they envy you, they want to discourage you because they don´t want you to do something, they never find the courage to.
    (check  – 11 signs that you are surrounded by negative people)

Now that you know, what 2 groups of „negative people“ are out there, the only thing you need to do is…

After a while, you will know exactly who wants to help you, and who wants to drag you down…

Once you realize who is who, you know exactly which people should stay, and which people show go away from your life ASAP.


What about people from the first group, who wants to help me, but still are a little bit negative?

Just stop talking about this subject. Don´t give them a reason to be upset, don´t give them a reason to be negative.

Find out what triggers their negativity, and try to avoid it.

But, when sometimes they start talking about it, don´t be upset, try to learn from anything they tell you.

And most important – Keep In Mind, They Do It Because They Love You And Wants The Best For You!

Thank you very much, I hope this article was helpful for you. If it did, please share it with your friends.

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My name is Patrik. I live in Slovakia and I am owner of dayprov.com. Dayprov is about Everyday improvements in our lives. You will find here tips about success, motivation, personal development and anything you want. Your recommendations for new interesting blog posts you would like to read about send to patrik@dayprov.com.

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