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Motivation Guide: How To Motivate Yourself In Every Situation

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Every day thousands of people all over the world want to find an answer on a question how to motivate yourselfHowever, the most successful people in the world still focus less and less on motivation.

Don´t get me wrong. Knowing how to motivate yourself is important (and in this article, I am going to show you how to do it). 

But motivation is definitely not the secret behind the results of top performers. 

Today, you´re going to find a much better and easier way how to get and stay motivated in a way that brings you results.   

In this article I am also going to share with you: 

  • What is the definition of motivation?
  • What is the biggest misconception about motivation?
  • When is the time to motivate yourself and when you should not?
  • What is the biggest problem of motivation?
  • How to motivate yourself when you need it the most.
  • What to do when motivation disappears.
  • What you should focus on instead of motivation. 
  • 3 ways how to motivate yourself in every situation.

Definition Of Motivation

Stephen Pressfield in his book The War of Art explains motivation like this: 

„At some point, the pain of not doing it becomes greater than the pain of doing it.“ 

What it means is that you are truly motivated, when it is easier for you to go for a run in the morning, than stayed in your warm, comfortable bed. 

My Definition Of Motivation

I think that motivation is mental state when you feel the urge to take action, no matter what consequences it brings. 

For example, when you are motivated to earn a million dollars, you need to go out and sell the product. 

While you go from door to door, you don´t care whether 9 of 10 people are gonna scream at you. 

You are motivated to take action in order to reach your 1 Million$ goal.  

True motivation force you to take necessary action. 

Biggest Misconception About Motivation

As I already stated, people are focused on motivation much more than they should. Knowing how to motivate yourself is important, but 99% of people do it absolutely the wrong way. 

I believe, the biggest misconception people have about motivation is that they think, motivation is something that comes automatically. 

They wait to take action until they feel motivated. 

  • They wait to make a sales call until they are pumped with motivation.
  • They wait to start losing weight, until they become motivated.  

In these cases, do you think, then motivation will come? 

No. It will not. Unless you do something for it.

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How To Find Motivation

What I mean in previous paragraph, is that people think that motivation works like this: 

Motivation —> Action —> Results

It´s wrong. Here´s how it works: 

Action –­-> Motivation —> Results —> Action —> Motivation — Results…

In many cases, even when you lack motivation, you need to take action if you want to achieve your goals. 

Then, along the process, you´ll become more motivated (because motivation many times comes after you start to do something, not before). 

And action + motivation keeps you working until you got results. 

This process creates a vicious cycle that helps you to motivate yourself and mainly brings you results. 

How to motivate yourself

Motivation is not something you have. It´s something you do. 

Focus on taking action and motivation will come. 

The True Purpose Of Motivation

Let´s say, you commit to losing 50 kilos. To do that, your goal is to exercise every morning. 

But, when you´re overweight, you have to use a lot of willpower to do so. It´s going to be really hard for you in the beginning. 

That´s the right time you should focus on motivation. 

The true purpose of motivation is to make easier for you to take the first step. 

So, if you´re gonna work out every morning, you need the motivation to wake up, put your clothes and go out. From there, you will know what to do. 

By taking this kind of action every single day, you slowly build a habitAnd the more the habit is built, the less motivation you need.

Here´s the great picture from James Clear that illustrates this concept:

The Biggest Problem Of Motivation

I am sure, this is something we can agree on. If you are motivated every single minute of every single day, you would already be:

  • a billionaire, 
  • professional sportsmen/sportswomen, 
  • the best artist in the world and so on, and so on. 

It is easy to take action when you´re motivated. 

The problem is that motivation doesn´t last. 

Even the most driven person in the world have times when there is no motivation. The times when everything this person wants to do is to lie in a bed, not talk to anyone an thinking… 

Motivation

The times when you feel sad, tired or in many cases even depressedUnfortunately, the results are not achieved by taking action only when you´re motivated.

When you want results, you need to take consistent action. 

And the best way to do so is to develop a habit

How To Take Action Even When You Are Not Motivated At All

When you develop a habit you no longer need motivation or willpower. You repeat the action automatically. It becomes natural to you.

Then you can focus all your willpower and motivation into building another habit, that helps you to get what you want.

This is the reason why the most successful people in the world focus less on motivation and more on building habits.

So I want you to focus on building habits. To understand how to do it, check out my complete, step-by-step guide here

More consistent action you take, more likely you are to build a habit. More you build your habit, the less motivation you need. 

How To Motivate Yourself To Develop A New Habit

Motivation has its irreplaceable place in habit building.  At the beginning of developing every brand new habit, you need to know how to motivate yourself. 

Again, it´s hard to develop a morning workout habit, when you can´t even remember the last time you work out.

Here are 2 tips for you to motivate yourself to develop a habit: 

1. Focus on the first step. 

When you wake up in the morning, you feel tired and sluggish. Yet, you know, you are supposed to go for a run. 

You really don´t want to. But, you know, you need to, if you want to lose these 50 kilos. 

In order to increase the odds of you go for a run, instead of hitting the snooze button and get an additional hour of sleep, do this: 

Focus on the first step. 

Instead of focusing on (painful) running, focus on putting your running clothes. 

Then, when you successfully motivated yourself to put on your running clothes (which is kinda easy to do), you´re gonna feel stupid, if you don´t go outside. 

Putting on your running clothes becomes the trigger that starts your actual habit (running).

2. Don´t set an intimidating goal.

Setting goals is extremely important for you to grow in life. If you don´t have a clear goal when you want to go, you´re not growing. 

I want to encourage you to set big goals for yourself, but then always divide them into smaller, easier achievable goals. 

Here´s why: 

To use the same example of losing 50 kilos.

50 kilos is a lot. It´s hard to motivate yourself when you wake up after 2 weeks of training, you feel tired, your muscles hurt and you still need to lose 49 kilos.

The problem with this is that it´s far, far, faaaar away. You don´t believe you can do it and you know, there will be a lot of pain in this process. 

Doubts

But, what if instead, your goal would be to just go out and run for 20 minutes? Or in the beginning just to go for a walk around the block? 

Is it easier? Of course. Nobody wants to fail. And it´s much higher probability that you won´t fail to go out and run for 20 minutes, than you lose 50 kilos. 

So, divide your big goals into every day´s easier achievable goals, that helps you to develop a habit. 

Once you develop a habit, you don´t need to spend time thinking about how to motivate yourself. You´re gonna do it automatically. 

Related: How To Plan Your Day For Maximum Productivity And Success

3 Ways How To Motivate Yourself To Take Action In Every Situation

1. Make it so easy you can´t say no. 

To develop a habit, you need to take the first step. And this technique from Leo Babuta says this: 

In order to be motivated, you need to make that step as easy as you possibly can. 

When your goal is to lose 50 kilos and you want to start running in the morning it´s hard to motivate yourself, when you know there are 5 miles in front of you. 

But, when you instead motivate yourself to go out and take a slow walk around the block, that´s an easy motivation. 

And remember, more small actions you do, sooner you build your habits. The more the habit is created, the less motivation you need.

2. Review yours why. 

When you try to explain to your child, that he/she has to go home, while other children are still outside, playing, what´s his/her question? 

Motivation

When you want to know how to motivate yourself, when you want to build a new habit, or when you want to take any action, you need to know your why. 

  • Why do you want it? 
  • Why do you want to lose 50 kilos?
  • What´s the big reason you´re going to suffer all these workouts? 
  • Why do you want to earn a million$?
  • What´s the reward for you? 

In our losing weight example, it´s probably health. This person clearly knows, if he/she doesn´t take care of his/her health, he won´t be around for very long. 

He might not see his children grow up. He might live in pain and not enjoy his/her life. 

Try to define your big Why´s and review them all the time you don´t know how to motivate yourself. 

3. Make progress. 

Progress equals happiness. – Tony Robbins

Have you ever played a team sport? 

If you did, you know, when is the time you are the most motivated to train. 

  • Is it when you have to? No. 
  • Is it when you lost a match? No.

It is definitely when you won a match and especially when you played well. 

I noticed this a few years ago. 

After one football match, that we won and I played really well I went to sleep. Next morning, when I wake up, I could rest, I could do anything I can. But do you know, what I did? 

I went for a run. I was so motivated, so I already saw myself playing in Champions League.

Motivation

Then, when the different match came, we lost and I played bad, what do you think I did the next morning? 

Nothing. I slept and I sit on a couch. 

The difference between these two situations was that in the first example I saw me making a progress, while in second example I didn´t. 

When you see progress, you are bumped with motivation. 

And the only way you can see progress is to do the same thing I shared with you at the beginning of this article.

Take action (no matter how much you´re motivated). 

Related: How To Take Action In Life: 12 Powerful Tips

Conclusion

Motivation is without a doubt really important for every one of us. If you don´t have a motivation to do something, you´re gonna lie in a bed all the time. 

But, in order to achieve your big goals, motivation isn´t enough. You need to focus also on building habits. 

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” – Jim Rohn

Use motivation, to take necessary action and develop a habit. The more the habit is built, the less motivation you need. 

There are also moments, when you´re not motivated. That´s the right time to remember this circle: 

Action –­-> Motivation —> Results —> Action —> Motivation — Results…

Many times, motivation comes along the process. Important is to take action and start. 

Check out: How To Develop A Habit: Complete Step-By-Step Guide

Comment below what do you think about this approach and what are ways that you motivate yourself? 


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My name is Patrik. I live in Slovakia and I am owner of dayprov.com. Dayprov is about Everyday improvements in our lives. You will find here tips about success, motivation, personal development and anything you want. Your recommendations for new interesting blog posts you would like to read about send to patrik@dayprov.com.
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